1.0 Introduction

The most frustrating moment in any technology leader's career happens in a conference room.

You're presenting a solution that could transform the business. You've done the research. You understand the technical requirements. You know this will work.

But the room isn't buying it.

Not because your solution is wrong. But because you haven't earned the authority to be heard.

In today's matrix organizations, formal power means less than ever. You're working with sales teams that don't report to you. Marketing departments with their own priorities. Operations groups focused on different metrics….Finance, Human Resources, etc.

Traditional command-and-control leadership doesn't work when nobody has to listen.

So what does?

2.0 The Five Behaviors of Earned Authority

After observing hundreds of technology leaders navigate complex organizational dynamics, I've identified five specific behaviors that separate those who struggle for influence from those who naturally command respect.

These aren't personality traits you're born with. They're learnable skills that compound over time.

Behavior #1: Lead with Questions, Not Answers

The weakest leaders walk into meetings with solutions. The strongest walk in with questions that make everyone think differently.

When the head of customer service complains about response times, don't immediately jump to technical solutions. Ask: "What would happen to customer satisfaction if we could cut response time in half? How would that change your team's daily experience?"

This approach does something powerful. It shifts the conversation from your agenda to their problems. Instead of defending your technical proposal, you're exploring shared challenges.

People don't resist solutions they help create.

Behavior #2: Make Others Look Good

Authority isn't about taking credit. It's about creating success for others that wouldn't have happened without your involvement.

When your infrastructure improvements help the sales team close deals faster, don't claim credit for the revenue increase. Highlight how the sales team leveraged the new capabilities to exceed their targets.

When your process automation saves the finance team hours of manual work, focus on how they redirected that time toward strategic analysis that improved decision-making.

This isn't about being selfless. It's about being strategic. When other departments see you as someone who makes their lives easier, they start seeking your input instead of avoiding your requests.

Behavior #3: Speak Their Language

Every department has its own vocabulary, metrics, and priorities. Marketing talks about conversion rates and customer acquisition costs. Operations focuses on efficiency and throughput. Finance cares about ROI and budget variance.

Technology leaders with earned authority become multilingual. They don't change the facts of their technical solutions. They change how they frame those solutions for different audiences.

Same project. Different conversations.

To marketing: "This reduces page load time by sixty percent, which typically increases conversion rates by fifteen to twenty percent."

To operations: "This automation eliminates three manual handoffs and reduces processing time from two days to four hours."

To finance: "The efficiency gains pay for the implementation cost within eight months, then generate ongoing savings of $200K annually."

You're not dumbing down your expertise. You're making it relevant.

Behavior #4: Follow Through on Everything

Authority is built through thousands of small commitments kept, not a few big promises made.

When you say you'll send that technical specification by Thursday, send it Wednesday. When you commit to investigating a performance issue, provide an update even if you don't have the final answer yet.

This seems obvious, but it's where most technology leaders fail. They treat small commitments as less important than major deliverables.

Wrong approach.  If you are not going to do it; better to not say it!

In matrix organizations (and in general), people judge your reliability based on how you handle the small stuff. If you can't be trusted to follow through on sending a document, why would they trust you with their strategic initiatives?

Exceptional follow-through creates a reputation that precedes you into every meeting. People start to think: "If she says it'll happen, it'll happen."

That's when they begin bringing you into conversations earlier, asking for your input on decisions, and including you in strategic planning.

Behavior #5: Take Ownership of Outcomes, Not Just Deliverables

Most technology leaders focus on delivering what was requested. Leaders with earned authority focus on achieving what was needed.

There's a crucial difference.

When the marketing team asks for a new analytics dashboard, the deliverable is the dashboard. The outcome is better decision-making that improves campaign performance.

If you deliver a perfect dashboard that nobody uses, you've succeeded at the deliverable but failed at the outcome.

Leaders with earned authority stay engaged until the outcome is achieved. They train users, gather feedback, iterate based on real usage patterns, and ensure the solution actually solves the business problem.

This approach takes more time upfront but creates exponentially more influence over time. You become known as someone who doesn't just build things - you create business value.

3.0 The Compound Effect

These five behaviors work together to create what I call “earned” or "gravitational authority." Like a planet that draws other objects into its orbit, you create influence through consistent demonstration of value rather than position power.

The process isn't immediate. Earned authority builds slowly through repeated interactions. But once established, it's remarkably durable and travels with you regardless of organizational changes.

The technology leaders who master this approach don't have to fight for a seat at the strategic table. They get invited because their perspective is valued, their follow-through is trusted, and their solutions create real business impact.

Your technical expertise becomes the foundation for influence rather than a barrier to it.

Start with one behavior. Pick the one that feels most natural or addresses your biggest current challenge. Practice it consistently for thirty days, then add the next one.

Authority isn't about your title or formal power structure. It's about the value you create and the trust you build through every interaction.

Ready to accelerate your journey from technical expert to influential leader? 

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Robert Castle 

Founder | DIGITAL LEADERSHIP EXCELLENCE

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